When you are in distance....you do not feel the actual shake...! Maybe some post shock waves...you will stay in shock for long time!
You are far enough to not feel the hit, the attack!
This is the second time in these four years that I lose some one close in my family!
It is my Grandma this time! 
I do believe now, that any unusual time to receive a call...means bad news! Some one left us, some thing got stolen, some one is sick....
some thing you care about is out of ordinary situation....so we called you as soon as we could!
That is what any unusual time phone calls mean!
I missed her! But still could not cry...it is so sad and distance that I think my brain does not want to believe it!

May she rest in peace!